Posted by messadivoce on June 23, 2005, at 11:23:20
In reply to Re: Confusing Session (triggery) » messadivoce, posted by daisym on June 23, 2005, at 0:19:33
<<<You've hit on my absolute biggest fear. I'm afraid of myself. I wonder, what lengths would I go to to avoid being left? OR to feel special? I wonder over and over again if I think sex can be used as currency in some way. Intellectually I tell myself "no." But my body has betrayed me before, so...so.>>>
This reminds me of a paragraph of "In Session." Something about how being in therapy makes our desires run smack up against the built-in boundaries of the therapeutic relationship.
I think your T has proven that he will not allow your desires to overrun your relationship with him, nor will you be forced to "pay" for what you are getting from him with your body. This is his job, after all. Amazing how simple his job really is, but also amazing how many T's can't walk the fine line of working with desires, but not gratifying them, or otherwise allowing them to sabatoge the therapy.
But I hope you agree that yours has handled this very skillfully. By this I mean that you have to TALK about what is behind your desires, not act on them. Does talking about your fears take away their power?
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