Posted by happyflower on June 4, 2005, at 15:09:00
In reply to Trying to make peace and let go, posted by pinkeye on June 3, 2005, at 15:36:56
Maybe if you put all that energy into your husband, your marriage will become stronger and you will get more out of it and be happier, so maybe you won't miss what you couldn't have anyways. Do you think if he said he liked you that it would even be more painful since you have no contact with him?
I think my T is great all around person and yes if the situation was different, he and I not married and not my therapist, I think we would be really good together(romantically). He is not a blank slate, I do know quite a lot about him as we have a lot of the same interests, but I have to give it up or else it will harm my marriage and therapy. I do think he likes me but he is very ethical and maybe that is why he is so great. Sad but true. I would love to have a relationship (friends) after therapy is over. I believe I can handle it, but it would be ultimitally up to him, and I am not holding my breath. So I am going to appreciate the good guy that I HAVE all to myself and make my marriage stronger. After 12 years, I am on the right track. :) I am glad you are seeing your husband in a better light. I hope you can get it together. So maybe when you are missing your T, you could try to do something for or with your husband instead. Try it and see if it helps! Good luck!
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