Posted by Jazzed on June 3, 2005, at 21:15:33
In reply to Trying to make peace and let go, posted by pinkeye on June 3, 2005, at 15:36:56
Hi pinkeye,
I don't mean to trivialize what you're going through, but I'll let you know how I handle transference. I've had it with others, not my T because I don't have one, but other men. I find a man who's off limits, that I'm comfortable with being off limits, but that I find attractive, and I fantacize about him. I know that sounds weird, but what it does for me, is keeps me trying to improve myself. I exercise, try to look my best, etc.. as if I'm trying to impress him. It's hard to describe, but it works, and the best part is it improved my marriage emensely because I felt better and sexy, and wanted to be with my husband. Of course when I really did have transference, I had to get over that initial hurt, which took a few months, but in the meantime I worked on me.
I don't know if that would work for anyone else, but I'd never give it up because it keeps me motivated.Jazzy
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