Posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 13:25:01
In reply to Re: Trying to make peace and let go » happyflower, posted by pinkeye on June 5, 2005, at 12:09:31
You said that, in a funny way, you feel protective about your ex-T's wife, you don't really understand .. that must be a common thing that can happen, then, because that's exactly how I felt about her, that woman in his life .. but I actually saw her a few times, I don't know if you ever saw your ex-T's SO.
I always thought, from the first meeting, that she was a rather cool fish, and perhaps a bit sly. I wouldn't like her IRL, I can see that, but I can't really explain why. You know, when you meet people, sometimes you can't explain your first impression, because it feels like there's relatively little to go on. And sometimes you're right, sometimes you're wrong because maybe that person is going through stuff, you know. But she's a reserved one, but also kind of insecure, I can see that too, I don't know how much she really feels her own power, don't know the depth of her own fears. So yeah, I felt protective of her in that way when I was going through a really lustful space ..
There's something about her, too, that feels like my mother. Very very weird. In reality, she looks a lot like my mother did ten years ago, there's something really similar, hair colour, style, stuff like that, the way they dress. Maybe that's it, too. And I have to say I do feel sorry for the wife of any therapist. Or husband. Unless they're both therapists, that would be much better I think. Because then you've got a level playing field.
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