Posted by pinkeye on June 3, 2005, at 17:42:24
In reply to Re: Trying to make peace and let go, posted by Susan47 on June 3, 2005, at 17:17:09
I also feel terrified of letting my ex T go.. But I think it is because of my transference. At some level, I think it still feels like leaving my dad. Without my transference, I would have thought of him like a good and decent and nice guy, and I would have liked him, but I wouldn't have had all these intense attachment and all that.
And I think your feeling towards your ex T is pretty much taht - huge transference. I don't think it really had anything to do with your Ex t as such. Maybe you liked him basically and thought of him as a nice guy, but the extra attachment is due to some sort of transference and projection. I don't think any of us are ever our Ts soul mates. It doesn't work that way at all.
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