Posted by pinkeye on May 10, 2005, at 12:45:59
In reply to Re: Taking a break for couple of days., posted by annierose on May 9, 2005, at 22:18:14
That is true Annierose. Though my husband wants to go back to India where my parents are also there, and it is not so bad.
But I think I don't have clear and firm boundaries. I end up taking too much responsibility and then keep silent and keep taking blame on myself more and more, and then let it accumulate and boil over, and one day I burst. And then blame everyone around me. I did that a while back once..
And then I get extremely angry and throw things and behave like mad.. I think from the beginnning I should start enforcing more good boundaries and let people take responsibility for their own feelings instaed of keep on doing things for them.. I have done the same thing again with my husband for the past two years - bent over backwards to accommodate him and please him, and now I am getting very angry.
IT is actually not taking too much responsibility that is the problem, it is taking too much blame and guilt that is more of an issue.
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