Posted by Dinah on May 9, 2005, at 22:24:59
In reply to Re: Taking a break for couple of days. » Dinah, posted by pinkeye on May 9, 2005, at 22:08:19
> But it is perhaps not possible for the Ts to go and tell their clients that they like them wihtout really liking them. So that is why they don't do it.
I don't think that's why they don't do it. I think they don't do it because they don't think they can ever fill a client up with those kind of assurances. Because those assurances are like water on a parched earth. They're just soaked up and the earth is still hungry for more.
They're aiming for a more fundamental change. Like building canals to change the parched earth into fertile producing soil, rather than just watering.
Of course, this might not be true of all therapists. Some may be free with positive words of praise. Mine just isn't.
But it's not because he thinks poorly of me. I knew him when he didn't like me so much. So I know what that feels like, and I know he does like me now. Not the sort of liking where he thinks I'm perfect or anything. But the sort of liking that comes when you can smile when another person reveals their shortcomings and think how very like them that is. Not that he doesn't want me to grow, but he understands me where I am now, and he's ok with me being there.
But the only compliments I ever remember him giving are about old pictures of myself, never the person in the room with him.
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