Posted by tabitha on June 17, 2004, at 12:32:18
In reply to Re: Rock vs Hard Place » tabitha, posted by Dinah on June 17, 2004, at 8:09:43
> And Tabitha, I hate to say this, but you can't compare your other relationships to your therapeutic one. Even our therapists don't have therapeutic relationships with other people. They go home and are as thoroughly annoying as anyone else. I always find it best to enjoy relationships for what they *can* offer. Casual friendships for casual friend relationships. Naggy fix it friends for solid and steady male companions. And romantic partners for what they can offer, which is waaaaay different than what therapists offer. It's fine to want a therapeutic relationship in your life. But it could be awfully lonely to *only* want a therapeutic relationship in your life.I know, friends aren't therapists, and I usually don't even want to talk on and on about my problems with them, I do want to have fun. But when I *am* down, then I just can't get into casual conversation or fun mode, so I remain alone and miserable, or else have these unsatisfying interactions with people. That's why I started therapy in the first place, because I was acting out all my embarrassing issues in my relationships, and I wanted a nice acceptable place to hide all that muck. Pretty considerate of me, ey?
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