Posted by tabitha on June 17, 2004, at 12:25:13
In reply to Re: Rock vs Hard Place » tabitha, posted by fallsfall on June 17, 2004, at 7:08:30
> I feel for you, Tabitha. You are in such a hard place. I wish I could help...
>Thank you falls, I know you're not posting so much these days, so I appreciate you responding. Yes, I've considered finding some other therapist to help me through this phase. I do have a friend who's a therapist, and I've talked about it some with him, but I generally don't think too well of his perspective. On this one issue of venting negative feelings, he disagrees with her. She seems to think it's a way to get closer to people. I've found any time I've done it in my relationships, no matter how careful I've been to use the best wording, I've gotten either a pretty hostile response or else never heard from that person again. I told him about one of these situations, and he said you have to really build a foundation of positives and trust with someone before you can share the negatives. That made more sense to me. I went back and told her what he'd said, and she said that in that situation, she hadn't advised me to say what I said to the person. So maybe I'm interpreting her advice wrong. Yet she always seems to be encouraging more openness about negative feelings, and never advises caution, or weighing the risks of speaking. I experience this woman in the group as just venting, rather than trying to get closer to me. She does the same in talking about other people, and I don't see that it brings her closer to them.
But if I really wanted to find another therapist I'd probably just start from scratch with newspaper ads. There are a couple publications with quite a few ads from therapists. That's how I found her.
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