Posted by Dinah on June 17, 2004, at 8:09:43
In reply to Re: Rock vs Hard Place, posted by tabitha on June 17, 2004, at 0:38:57
Awww, sweetie. (((Tabitha)))
Of course you can't find a therapeutic relationship with friends. Friends offer wonderful friend relationships. (Husbands offer wonderful husband relationships). But only therapists offer wonderful therapist relationships.
So clearly the answer is to find another therapist, at first to consult. And if it were me, I'd talk with my therapist about how group seems to be making your therapeutic relationship tenuous. And how your therapeutic relationship is important enough to you that you are really distessed about that.
And Tabitha, I hate to say this, but you can't compare your other relationships to your therapeutic one. Even our therapists don't have therapeutic relationships with other people. They go home and are as thoroughly annoying as anyone else. I always find it best to enjoy relationships for what they *can* offer. Casual friendships for casual friend relationships. Naggy fix it friends for solid and steady male companions. And romantic partners for what they can offer, which is waaaaay different than what therapists offer. It's fine to want a therapeutic relationship in your life. But it could be awfully lonely to *only* want a therapeutic relationship in your life.
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