Posted by fallsfall on April 27, 2004, at 7:47:25
In reply to To call or Not to Call: Always a question!, posted by DaisyM on April 27, 2004, at 1:08:47
At some point, the idea is to not need your therapist. Just like your children get ready to move out of the house. But they don't just leave and never speak to you again. It is a gradual process, and even when they have completely moved out, they still need to call to find out how you made their favorite casserole.
But before your children are ready and able to move out, they need you, they depend on you. And that dependency is what gives them the strength to succeed when they DO move out.
What would you say to an 8 year old who said "Mom, I'm 8 now, so I'm going to get a job and move into an apartment"?
But when it is time for them to go, you are happy (and sad) and proud because you know they have the skills (inner skills and practical skills) to succeed.
Don't compare yourself with GG. She is not you. You have different journeys, and you are at different places in your journeys.
Don't move out until you are ready.
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