Posted by gardenergirl on April 27, 2004, at 1:44:15
In reply to To call or Not to Call: Always a question!, posted by DaisyM on April 27, 2004, at 1:08:47
Daisy,
I am not opposed to the possiblity that I might be defending against being dependent. I never really talked to him about urges to call except the one time when I passed my CCE. So I feel like it's progress, but more in that I tend to want immediate gratification when I need to ask someone something (and not just my T). I'm trying to learn patience. Or so I rationalize...Imagine a therapy rule book. All of the exceptions and addendums and precendents, etc. Who would be the referee? Would they blow the whistle when a boundary crossing or violation occurred?
Sorry to make light of your post. It's very late and I am getting punchy. Off to bed for me.
But your question is a good one, and reminds me of a flavor of what you often struggle with in therapy, from reading your posts--"how much needing him is "correct" or can I tolerate given that I try to be superwoman (and in many ways you are, dear), and what does that say about me?" I think it is a very individual process.
Today my T and I talked about how I really want to do things because *I* decide to do them. If I feel like I have to or someone demands me to do something, I really dig my heels in. So perhaps feeling like I don't need my T is digging my heels in in the face of feeling dependent? Ugh. My head hurts, now. ;)
take care,
gg
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