Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2011, at 19:21:50
In reply to Re: Ferber, posted by Phillipa on February 26, 2011, at 11:33:38
I suspect that human infants were designed to be resilient. Conditions of life were hardly such over the period of time humans were alive to allow for perfect mother/child madonna bonding moments. It's only very recently we've had to worry about things like eye contact, when our ancestors were likely more worried about being able to feed their kids, or getting them out of town as the plague hit, or carting them along as they pursued game.
I think you've mentioned that one of your children was fussy as an infant. That must have been difficult. My son wasn't really. He just liked to be held, and when he was held he was perfectly agreeable. I have a deep understanding of what it feels like to call out and receive no comfort. I didn't mind his wanting to be held. It didn't seem unreasonable to me. Don't we all want to be held? I'm glad we were available to hold him. When he was ready to be alone, he managed it just fine.
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