Posted by sigismund on February 27, 2011, at 1:38:34
In reply to Re: Ferber, posted by morgan miller on February 27, 2011, at 1:21:07
Some kids are easy and others not. Given enough kids there might always be enough to overtax any parent's abilities.
And this is the real world, unamenable sometimes/mostly to remedy from existing therapies.My experience has been that it is less important to satisfy a kid's needs than it is to avoid making a bad situation worse, and to refrain from impingement.
Other than that, I agree with DH Lawrence's 'Leave them alone, leave them alone, leave them alone', which meant, given C19 child rearing practices, refrain from impingement.
But give interest, attention, clear boundaries and what love you can, and forget your own needs as far as possible.
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