Posted by floatingbridge on February 25, 2011, at 19:11:06
In reply to Re: New research on Depressed Moms » floatingbridge, posted by Phillipa on February 24, 2011, at 19:52:02
Phillipa, I have a flair for drama :)
For reals (as my son would say), o.k. So I don't deal with full blown borderline. The talk is that borderline (an awful misnomer/carry over) is on a spectrum (the latest model for describing everything). If I overlay the diagnostic chart for c-ptsd on borderline, there is a very near correlation as I see it. Am I
missing something really significant? So bad c-ptsd meets borderline?People don't believe how miserable I feel because, as my pdoc says, I 'present' so well. One of the big yucky things about aging, is that 'old' people (I like to say elderly) can be so disrespected and disenfranchised in United States' culture
that a very well-adjusted elderly woman could be suspect ("crazy old coot") just for speaking her mind. Like being old is on par with bad hygiene.Aaaanyways, let's say I'm used to not being believed until someone (outside my family) in a rare sees me full-on upset. In my family of origin, I always sucked it up, patched family quarrels, played good daughter, etc.
I don't think borderline is far from the mark. A more accurate diagnosis is helpful--I just want my symptoms addressed, get the right therapy and
meds. Borderline implies intense suffering, a bereft and empty sense of identity, experiencing the self broken beyond repair. Many conditions create these feelings, however in borderline (and c-ptsd), these feeling persist.Many folks w/ borderline or borderline
features do not act out. The poster children for BPD are absolutely raging, self-serving before every loved one, abusive, sadistic, deny all culpability in a relationship, and basically f*ck up everything around them.I had a boss once who sexually molested all the waitresses on their paydays. He was also a gangster, rapist, perhaps murderer. Was he borderline? Maybe he was. (You know, a Sopranos-type guy.) Btw, I never finished the Sopranos. Was Tony's problem ever revealed?
Is the big difference a total lack of self-reflection?
Thanks for being surprised, Phillipa :)
> FB what is this about borderline? That's new isn't it? I was depressed when third born as she cried 24 hours a day and had to be held this whole time which was done. I did the day shift, husband at time did night shift. She projectile vomited each feeding on the floor. When from breast to goat's milk with lots of others inbetween. So she received more than first two who slept through night age two weeks. Phillipa
*keep a green tree in your heart
& a singing bird will come.
MDD & C-PTSD
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