Posted by baseball55 on March 27, 2014, at 20:09:06
Okay. So I have been living with my husband for 36 years, my entire adult life - and his. I found out he is cheating on me and he said, when I confronted him, some pretty harsh and hurtful things. We went to see my proc (the only person he would agree to meet with) and it was horrible. My p-doc, who is sympathetic to my husband after all I put him through with a deep, dark depression that lasted almost four years, was shocked by him. Said he was narcissistic and self-absorbed and seemed to be oblivious to the hurt he caused me.
I went and stayed in a short-term rental for a week and am now back and feeling I need to leave permanently. But he is confusing me. He is loving and kind in many ways, more so than he ever has been. He doesn't want me to leave. But he doesn't want to change his behavior either. Everything is fine for him, but not for me.
I'm lost. Do I leave a person with whom I've spent my entire adult life, with whom I have adult children we both love? Or do I stay in what feels an intolerable situation?
I don't know what to do. The financial issues overwhelm me. Together, we are in good shape. Separately, we are broke.
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