Posted by TexasChic on July 13, 2008, at 13:00:14
In reply to Re: Bullies, posted by Dinah on July 13, 2008, at 12:27:32
No, everything you said makes sense. I really only completely confided in my coworker that I wrote the letter to above, but its obvious now I shouldn't have trusted her. But its so hard when you're being mistreated and somebody acts compassionate! But other than her I have kept this all to myself until recently, when I felt I may need some witnesses, which is why I've started speaking to others about it. But yeah, it sounds like your husband has the right idea. But it seems like its easier for men to get away with that attitude. However, I could probably do it if I really tried. In fact I really did try at first. I didn't tell my coworker anything personal for the entire first year we worked together. It was her that finally came to me to talk about the problems she was having with our boss.
I'm so confused right now. I think I should get out of there and get another job, but then I think I need to stay and stand up for myself rather than go somewhere else only to have it repeat all over again.
I decided yesterday I was going to go do something today, like go to the bookstore and Walmart, and try to stop obsessing. I have a little money set aside to spend, and I have gotten into the bad habit of never leaving the house when I'm off work. So that's what I'm going to do now. Thanks everyone for your advice and for listening. I'll let you know how it goes tomorrow.