Posted by TexasChic on July 12, 2008, at 21:03:10
In reply to Re: Bullies » TexasChic, posted by Kath on July 12, 2008, at 20:31:43
> My concern is about you getting things in writing. Does it mean that your yuck-boss has to write down instructions for everything you do? And then there'll be a record of how you perform?
That's the idea. I haven't actually talked to her yet, I haven't actually gotten the write up yet! I just talked to her boss about it, and then ran my idea by him (having everything in writing) and he said it was a great idea!
> I REALLY hope so, because that'd be proof for you. It sounds like HR told you to do that, but will the HR-3rd-person ensure that that happens? I'm afraid yuck-boss will be able to be weasely. What do you think?
No, no one has told her to do that yet. And really what has me freaking out is that she WILL try to warp the results. I try to think positive, my bosses boss said this was a chance to turn things around. He told me about an employee he wrote up once who turned things around and was later his favorite employee. I just wish I could believe that she wants to work with me. But then I think, so why hasn't she tried before now? I'm really torn between believing she wants to make things work, and that she's trying to set me up.
Funny that I told my coworker 2 months ago that I felt like she was setting me up so that she could give me a bad review and get rid of me. I'm definitely going to keep listening to those instincts. From what I've read about Highly Sensitive People http://www.hsperson.com/, which I believe I am, they pick up on things like peoples moods before anyone else. I have always known when something was up with my boss, whether it was about me or she was pissed off about something. I always email my coworker and say, "is anything going on?" And she'll say, "I don't know, let me find out". And then she comes back and says, "yeah, she's pissed because so and so said something to her". I've never been wrong so far.
And from what I understand, the 3rd party HR person is supposed to insure things are done fairly.
One other thing, and this has been really bothering me, when I was talking to my bosses boss, he said she had told him she was concerned because I don't have all my categories and sub categories memorized. And he said after two years I should know all that and if he went to the other two girls in my position he guarantees they would know them. Well I asked one of them and she said no way did she have that memorized!