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The letter I didn't send to my so called friend

Posted by TexasChic on July 13, 2008, at 12:36:00

In reply to Okay, I've had a good cry, posted by TexasChic on July 12, 2008, at 15:51:52

This is the letter I wrote her but didn't send.

For the last two years, you and I have discussed our numerous problems with our boss. You are the one person who REALLY knows how unreasonable she is, what these past two years have been like, and what I have gone through. You even told me your husband calls her psycho bitch because of all he has heard from you about her.

I told you two months ago that I felt like our boss was planing to write me up, and nothing I could do would change that. You told me to be sure and document everything. Unfortunately I was too busy trying to live up to our boss's unreasonable demands to do much documenting. I told you when I saw she went to HR that it was about me. You said you would try to find out what was going on.

She then took you out to an early impromptu lunch without saying anything to me. I was sitting there for 30 minutes waiting for you two to come back in so I could go. Since I found that suspicious I called you later that day. You never returned the call.

Then I find my action plan on the public printer (when our boss has one in her office) just laying there for who knows how long for everyone to see. There were several copies, and somebody had put one of them on the table where we lay stuff that has been setting on the printer for a long time without being picked up. Once again I tried to remain the professional and just went back to my work.

After this our boss starts acting especially nice to me, although it was transparently fake. I couldn't help but wonder what you would think of all this. Then I see you at the store and I wait for you to say something about it. You never did, so I thought you must not know about it! So I tell you what happened, and you nonchalantly say, "Oh yeah, [our boss] told me about that." You knew all that time that I had found my action plan on the printer, and not only did you never bother to contact me and maybe see how I was, you pretend nothing was going on when you did see me! I was so shocked I turned around and walked out. I almost got to my car when I realized I needed to act professionally, go back in there, and make it through that lunch. So I did, and I got to sit there and hear all about you and our boss going out and getting drunk. It took every bit of my self control to remain there.

I feel completely betrayed by you. I can't believe I was ever stupid enough to trust you! When I think of all those times I confided in you - you probably told our boss everything! Its obvious to me now that you are just as fake as our boss. But you're even worse, because you're not only two faced, but you're also a coward who won't stand up for a person you know is being mistreated, when you are the one person who could confirm everything. You have hurt me way worse than our boss ever could, because I trusted you.

I needed to tell you these things. I needed to express how I felt about you. I can still work with you, but I don't have to like you. Don't pretend to be my friend when you obviously aren't.

 

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