Posted by Kath on January 7, 2008, at 21:10:45
In reply to Re: I REALLY need your help...almost suicidal (**trigg » Bobby, posted by Jay_BrAvEsT_FaCe on January 7, 2008, at 15:56:44
Many N. American females seem to be hung up on a guy's "image", financial status, and their "coolness" (as in they have to have hundreds of 'buddies'...drive and like fancy cars...be emotionally stale...love sports...be "macho"...look like the GQ guy, or second best...can't have an ounce of hair or fat on his body...etc.)
********OK - so try to go where those types AREN'T - Maybe there are more of them in bars, clubs, dating sites. Maybe there are less of them in - hmmm - I dunno - hiking club; nature club; photo group; ballroom dancing group; folk dancing group - I dunno - maybe someone else has some ideas
I start off firmly in one of my main beliefs that I am not materialistic, that spirit, communication, laughter, all those things are most important to me. Of course I put down that financially wise, I am responsible, and doing fine, but it's just not a big deal. I don't drive an SUV, pick-up, or sports car because I care about the environment. Stuff like that.*********I think it's great that you're open & real about who you are!!! My daughter & her now-partner were. They both said the spiritual side of life & self-improvement were NB to them. They both thought NObody else interested in that would be on a dating site, but they were. However, I suspect that you have way more nonsense to wade through on a dating site. Can you imagine the cellphone-girl reading your details & then even calling you when she is obviously SO different with different values!!
When I was doing the newspaper ad thing, I went out on 3 dates. 2 were really disasters; we really didn't have much in common. The 3rd turned out to be someone I knew & he was okay, but by then I had startede to go out with now-hubby.
I send you warm hugs Jay. I think you live near me. I have a single friend who is in the 'market' for someone to spend time with. Her main love is the outdoors. She's, I think 40, has a 5-yr-old girl. I'm probably breaking some rule or other by saying all that! I dunno. Babblemail me if you want.
hugs, Kath
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