Posted by Jay_BrAvEsT_FaCe on January 7, 2008, at 15:56:44
In reply to Re: I REALLY need your help...almost suicidal (**trigg » Jay_BrAvEsT_FaCe, posted by Bobby on January 6, 2008, at 21:35:43
> ok here it goes...
> I was single and felt like you until I was 36 --and by some divine twist of fate---and literaly in the blink of an eye-----I found my wife(or should I say she found me) and my life changed overnight. there's nothing wrong with you Jay. You seem like a cool dude to hang out with----you're talented musically for sure and women dig that. I bet you that there are a whole lot more single women who feel lonely than single men--so look at yourself as a minority. In retrospect---when I look at my past --I feel as if I looked too hard at all women and didn't trust the good lord to work it out his way---if you believe in him. Anyway, I wound up with a black woman from Jamaica --and the fit couldn't be better and I couldn't be luckier--maybe you're like me and are looking too hard and in the wrong places--keep an open mind look for positive things--I read on a sign one day going down the road---"What you find in life ----depends on what you're looking for." It stuck with me and I lean on it from time to time. All I can say is good luck----and I know she's out there---and be kind to all women cause she may be on psych drugs too.
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>Hi Bobby:
Thank you too so kindly for taking the time to post. I am also in a bit of hypomania, and geezz....it hurts.....you know, when the mental anguish gets bad, and you feel so alone....it soooooo hurts....accckkk!!..heh. But, today, after sleep and some Risperdal, I am in (hopefully!) back in a bit of balance. Like I said before, I get the feeling there may be other posters who resent me posting this stuff ("He's done it before...can't he "grow up"!!??)...but....sorry...I am just as vulnerable as anybody on here. Now even though I don't apply this to politics...lol..."if you ain't got nothin' nice to say...". Heh. Well, maybe more exceptions...but....
Thanks very much for sharing your story. Quite inspiring, indeed! I have a friend who went to one of the nicer African countries and met his future wife there. They are such a happy couple, and now have a little boy, who is the gleam in my friend's eye. I am thinking of doing some travelling. Many N. American females seem to be hung up on a guy's "image", financial status, and their "coolness" (as in they have to have hundreds of 'buddies'...drive and like fancy cars...be emotionally stale...love sports...be "macho"...look like the GQ guy, or second best...can't have an ounce of hair or fat on his body...etc.) And yes, I didn't say ALL N. American females. French Canadian females have a very different attitude about men too. They seek the 'mature' male, the 'feelings oriented' male, and they are very sexually liberated. I know, I've dated quite a few, but this was years ago, and my priorities weren't right.
Yes, I know there are women out there suffering the same as I. They may likely not be the ones who go on dating websites because of issues, which is really sad. From what I've heard, some of these guys on here go through women like they do underwear, and it takes just one bad experience to tarnish the whole situation. That's why I never bring up the 'sex' issue obviously until much latter on. And ya, I do know, I feel, what I am looking for in my life. In my ad on the date website, I don't just write "S.M. seeking S.F. age, job, likes, etc." I start off firmly in one of my main beliefs that I am not materialistic, that spirit, communication, laughter, all those things are most important to me. Of course I put down that financially wise, I am responsible, and doing fine, but it's just not a big deal. I don't drive an SUV, pick-up, or sports car because I care about the environment. Stuff like that.
Anyhow...I think you get my message. :-) Thanks very kindly for your reply and great words of wisdom.
Best,
Jay
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