Posted by TexasChic on April 30, 2006, at 18:13:46
In reply to Re: Now I'm obsessing, posted by Racer on April 30, 2006, at 14:59:33
> It's my imagination thinking of what they're saying that hurts me." Does that make sense? It's not thinking in words, you know...
Actually that makes alot of sense. Dwelling on these things is hurting myself. I've been successful at incorporating the principles of karma into my life in the past, but I think I've been slacking. I need to work on banning those negative thoughts in order not to attract more negativity.
> It's unfortunate that he used the phrase "over reacting."
Actually, I used it first. So I don't know if he was just repeating back to me what I had said, or actually making that statement.
>... your reaction is much more apparent to others than you think. Those children know they're getting to you, which is why they keep doing it.
How can they do that if they forgot I existed? I really don't think they've forgotten. There's been too many blatant things lately. Plus, this is apparently what they do for fun. They pick someone every year to ostracise.
> My advice? First, take a look around you, with the emotions held in check. Who are these children really friends with? Of the rest, who is interesting enough to you for you to invite to lunch? Take an active role, and ask someone out for lunch.
I've actually tried something similiar to that. It didn't really work. The people I picked ended up being under the influence of the 'idiot children'. However, there are a couple others I've thought about trying to hang out with, who have no attachment to the IC. I'll try again with them.
>The more contact you have with others WITHOUT ANY REFERENCE TO THE IDIOT CHILDREN, the less power anyone will have to isolate you.
That's good advice. I've been trying to do that, but I sometimes end up referencing the idiot children in spite of myself. I'll have to be strickter about that.
> And, in the course of all this redirecting of your focus, include CuteBoy in lunches.
I'm kind of mad at him. I know the way he handled it was probably the most logical, but I don't know, I'm just still mad about it. I may be hanging onto it as a shield against being hurt. I don't know.
> Also, life advice here: this is work, not life, so find other things to make a life out of. Take a community education class one evening a week -- ceramics, yoga, car repair, whatever. Just something that interests you and helps you keep work in perspective.
I've actually been telling myself this for a while. I chant to myself, "work is not my life!" (although I haven't been doing it lately). I've even looked into the courses (the exact ones you mentioned!). I guess I just haven't followed through. I seem to have gotten off track somewhere along the way.
You've given me alot to think about. I've got to work on banning those negative thoughts. One of the courses I looked into is a class on Meditation. It seems like it was inexpensive too. I'll see when that starts.
Thanks for the advice!
-T
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