Posted by TexasChic on July 30, 2004, at 11:42:07
In reply to Re: I'm trying to be assertive, but its so hard! » TexasChic, posted by partlycloudy on July 30, 2004, at 10:30:18
> Ask her if she's checked her email lately. I have a very hard time being assertive face-to-face without becoming emotional and bawling, so this is something I would have done!
> keep us posted on what follows.I'm too scared to ask her to check her email. I know that would alleviate the anxiety to get it over with, but I am just a nervous wreck about it. And my nervousness has nothing to do with her, its my own internal thing. I'm a people pleaser and don't do confrontations well. I'm trying to change that, but I guess it takes time.
Last time we had an problem, we discussed it through email (even though we sit right beside each other) and it worked out really well. We both decided its easier to get everything out and say it the way you want without getting all flustered and mixed up.
She really is a good person despite all the complaining I do about her. I've come to realize its really a personality conflict more than anything. The way we each handle things seems to always clash with each other. But she's a good friend who I think will be a better friend once we no longer work together. And being as I'm kind of short in the friends department right now, I really don't know what I'd do if I lost her friendship. I mean, I know I would move on, but it would be hard.
Anyway, thanks for listening and the support. I'll report back when I hear something (she wasn't reading her emails like I thought a while ago – false alarm). Also, I have a setting on my email that will tell me when she opens it, so I'll know when she reads it.
God I hope I get that other job!
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