Posted by TexasChic on July 30, 2004, at 11:07:38
In reply to Re: I'm trying to be assertive, but its so hard!, posted by JenStar on July 30, 2004, at 10:32:51
Wow! Those were some great tips! Thank you. See, this is what I should have done to begin with. Instead I let it drag on until I was very upset, and when I finally did talk to the boss aobut it, I was defensive and told her I thought she was playing favorites. When you brought up doing other projects, that's a sore spot too. Becuase my boss will only assign 'her' special projects. It makes me feel that she thinks I'm inferior. I told her all this in an emotional babble, so I don't know if the damage is done and I look like an immature little idiot or what. But my boss reassured me that she didn't think my co-worker was better than me and blah, blah, blah.
I was the one that suggested she split the pages (right now she puts them in her out box for us to pick up as she completes them). She liked this idea, but of course had to add, "now if I do this you will have to get your work done done on time with no overtime". I was like, yeah, your faith in me is staggering (I just thought that, I didn't say it). The worst part is I actually have about twice the experience my co-worker does!
Now this co-worker is actually my closest friend who I met at work about a year ago. We've had our conflicts, but work them out eventually. But two of the reasons you listed for her doing this I think are correct:
1. She works fast and just wants to ensure that everything gets done.
3. An internal competition thing - no matter how many artists were on staff, she would want/need to outshine them all. There are some superstars out there who routinely put in crazy hours and tons of effort to do the best job of anyone on staff.
The thing is, I don't think she is intentionally trying to make me look bad, maybe trying to look good herself, but not necessarily meaning to at my expense. And last time we had problems, we agreed we handle them better when we send emails.
Okay, she's reading her emails now, I have to go. I'll tell yall how it works out.
Thanks for you and PC's responses.
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