Posted by shar on February 10, 2004, at 16:17:02
In reply to Re: just can't hold on » shar, posted by Ilene on February 10, 2004, at 9:00:42
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When you said "I just don't enjoy life" it struck me as quite different than someone who says they want to die, or can't hold on, or are ready to kill themselves, want to commit suicide, etc. A difference in intensity and current readiness plus a strong desire to end the pain, without mitigating factors (such as I choose to stay so I won't abandon my family). Two very different situations.Someone who 'just doesn't enjoy life' and does not mention suicidal feelings would not get the "50 years old" lecture from me because they would not seem ready to end it all. And, someone in that 'space' (not suicidal, etc.) might benefit from a hobby or some other distracting activity.
Given your second post, stating you DO feel suicidal but will not abandon your family, would still not get the "lecture" because it's obvious you have a safeguard against killing yourself that you apply to your situation.
I do believe that half a century of feeling every day that you want to die is long enough if one is willing and able to do the deed and take the consequences, however, it is only *my* philosophy. And, though many on the board are sick of hearing it, I still 'lecture' about it to folks who seem ready to go. Especially folks who seem young and in terrible pain, when there are so many possibilities down the road. Like a good AD.
S
> > > Okay, I'll be fifty in a few months. I've given it a good half century; I just don't enjoy life. What should I do now?
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> I am suicidial *now* and have been so for the past 2 years or so, and off an on before that. I don't see things getting any better. I'm hanging on for the sake of my family, but it's very difficult. I've had several major setbacks in my life. I'm too sick to work. I have no social life. I have no life, period. I'm barely functioning.
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> The psychic pain is overwhelming, but I'd be abandoning my family if I killed myself.
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> All I need is a hobby? I have hobbies. They don't interest me anymore.
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> I could use an AD that works.
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> I.
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