Posted by Omega Woman on January 7, 2004, at 14:18:31
In reply to Re: 5 things that make a person appear feminine. » Omega Woman, posted by zeugma on January 6, 2004, at 18:57:21
When I was younger, my mother was'nt so well of so I used to try and create what I wanted by finding discarded goods and trying to fix them.
That has been a great skill for getting myself slowly well, fitter and stronger. I don't know about yourself, but I imagine if I was brought up in one of those families who threw out the stuff I fixed and were lucky enough to live well without really trying. Well what attitude would people in such a context take to defective or broken people. Would they suddenly get the love for fixing defective things I did ?
I doubt it. I got these skills as a young child through poverty. Anyway I've already seen what happens in some of those families. They have strong hierarchies and the weaker members sort of end up in a place, where they feel lower than its healthy for a person to feel.
What you seem to be saying is that you don't fulfill what you think are the acceptable requirements physically and mentally to be fit for a relationship, else why be so worried about someone seeing you. ? You say you have spent time with lots of women, yet I don't feel you've grasped the full range of whats out there.
Many women are very abstract, especially in the non religious adademic middle classes. Actually now that I think about it these are the very types who seem to marry gay men pretending to be straight..but thats not what I was going to say. Some of these are the sort of women who just love quirky Woody Allen men with tortured minds and wimpy physiques. They love good intention and like me they like to find something thats broken and thrown away. They teach this to their daughters too. I live near a University. I see this everyday.
I've met women who would love to make me a project. To sort me out and breathe new life into me. All I have to do is be up for it, to be honest about all my problems and to make happiness a priority. Of course I would'nt trust them completely. Many of them dont have a clue what they're doing.
Anyway I'm just throwing ideas in. I don't really need a women to fix me, like I said when I got depressed all my creative processes turned inward like everything tends to do, and I did really good at healing myself and trying all sorts of crazy remedies and treatments. I suppose a depressed person who was strict and demanding before it happened might commit suicide easily. Ayway I found the process itself was healthy. I hope you get creative.
You say you have problems I put in my list of things that make a person Male deficient. The only reason I found about them is due to having the problems myself or seeing them in people I know. Sensory overload and poor concentration I treat with Omega 3 salmon oil. The anxieties I used to drown in benzodiazines created tolerance and aren't as sustainable as the anxiety wants to be. I use Zopiclone small dose for that. Eating Healthy, Strenous exercise, Deep thinking, Creative projects and zany friends all seem to do the trick for me..
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