Posted by Tab▀itha on October 30, 2002, at 2:24:04
In reply to Re: feelin' sexually frustrated/gf in therapy, posted by bookgurl99 on October 29, 2002, at 19:50:05
> As for the 'safe touching,' we've tried that and I find that my partner gives me mixed messages -- she'll go beyond the set boundaries and sometimes be ok with that and sometimes be freaked out if I then proceed to the same point she does.
Hey Bookie, I'll bet she needs for you to stick to the set boundaries, while she is free to do whatever is comfortable for her. If her boundaries were violated in the past, she probably needs extra control over them right now until she feels safer. What if you just relax and let her drive?