Posted by bookgurl99 on October 29, 2002, at 19:50:05
In reply to Re: feelin' sexually frustrated/gf in therapy, posted by Kath on October 29, 2002, at 15:33:46
> PSS - maybe you can set up "safe" touching - both of you knowing what the boundaries are. For those of us who were sexually abused, it can be very hard to be sensual without being afraid that the other person will interpret it as an invitation to be sexual. This is an issue that I have to deal with as a "survivor" of sexual abuse.
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Kath, thanks for the suggestion. I'll definitely go out and check on the book.As for the 'safe touching,' we've tried that and I find that my partner gives me mixed messages -- she'll go beyond the set boundaries and sometimes be ok with that and sometimes be freaked out if I then proceed to the same point she does.
So we're going to therapy next week to talk about this.
What I _really_ don't understand, though, is that my partner is more frightened of sex now that we're closer than before, and that she is likely to call me 'horny' or some other negative word when _she_ is feeling sexual.
bookie
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