Posted by jay on October 26, 2002, at 15:55:39
In reply to Not too bad, Jay! » jay, posted by SandraDee on October 26, 2002, at 11:01:33
Hey SandraDee:Thank you *so much* for the kind compliment. :-) <Am I blushing?..hehee>
Yes..and as I always say..the 'good' ones are already taken. ;-) And I very much appreciate the compliment of my moronic pic. I look like a deer standing in an oncoming cars headlights..hehee.I don't honestly think it was because I had waited to ask her out on a pity date, mainly because her very quick and powerful reaction. It was like I was asking her to marry me, and she just seemed so horrified at the idea of her and I going out on a 'date'. As I said before...she was always complaining she was single and that always makes me shake my head. Are some woman really that shallow, that even though you are considered to be one of the nicest guys in existence (so..I don't mean that in an egotistical way...but I am a social worker, and my communication and socialization skills are very well refined. I work VERY hard at complimenting people, and making anybody I talk to feel pretty good about themselves. It also comes across that I am a fair bit confident of myself in social situations. Now that I know her from the past six months, and talking to her about various things, it sorta seems she feels she deserves a Brad Pitt look-alike, who is 'cool', etc. Maybe she wasn't the one, then, that I should think about going out with.
I could talk to this to her, but this would get her in a little 'fit' because she can't have her superficial needs filled. But..it was her loss. Once I have been slighted like that, ya I do get a bit ticked, but I will just continue by offering her cold responses. I used to take my breaks and just talk with her. Maybe it will make her think twice..but I doubt it. After being rejected so 'coldly' (she could have at least said we would 'talk' about it..or just let things be and go out on a 'normal' date, and see what happens. She slammed the door before I even got my foot in it.
Nobody likes rejection, and that's what this is. I don't play 'games'..and I will just move on. That is probably better for my mental health. Her loss...
Anyhow..thanks kindly for the nice reply. :-)
Jay
> I'd date ya hahahaha... but ah, I'm married :)
> I wanted to say that maybe she wanted you to ask her out 5 months ago, and now feels like you invited her as a 'pity date' or something. She might resent the fact that you didn't ask her out sooner. Just keep it low-key on your "friend-date". Be a friend then... and maybe after "date" three... you'll be holding hands or something :) Give her time to see the outside of work, and playful Jay. Find out what she really likes, (maybe a new CD) and buy it for her. Bring a toy for her child. I'm just thinking of things that would make me think twice about a guy if I was a single mom.
> Oh well - had to check out the picture to find out why you are having troubles getting a date, now that I've seen your picture and hear what you've posted - I am just as confused why you are having problems :) That sounds really shallow - but trust me there is a compliment in there somewhere.
> Toodles,
> Me
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