Posted by jay on October 26, 2002, at 6:50:16
The GREAT mysteries of the women. Ok...so I had worked with this single gal for about six months. She spent a lot of time with me talking about how much she hates being single..and how lonely she feels...and has even gotten mad at me at times for not paying attention to her. (Nothing's really..) So...I get myself ALL BRAVE...and do what I know is the ONLY way I will ever know..and ask her to a movie. First thing that comes out of her mouth is "As a friend..I will..but only as a FRIEND". She hammer that in at least five times in our two minute conversation.
In reality..I only go out on first 'dates' as a 'friend'...BUT..she had to make that clear and known 5 f'ing times in a few minutes. 'There is just no way she could 'date' moi!!'..urggghhh Now...let me get a few things about me across. I am a very gentle, funny guy..with a very deep sensitivity. She knows this. I am very well educated, and I will likely be starting my 'dream job' in January, and will have a very high paying career out of it. That doesn't make me 'better'....but she is just struggling as a single mother who is pretty much living in poverty. She is 26..I am soon to be 33. Do some woman seriously avoid going for good things in their lives? Again..I am not egotistical...and I am just 'average' looking..not any Hollywood fly-boy or anything like that. Heck..you can look up my pic on yahoo under my 'jay_ghostrider' profile. (Don't laugh..well..not too hard!..lol!)
So my question again is...do some women just not want anything to do with extremely nice guys..who also happen to be very compassionate...loyal..and possibly provide a very comfortable, meaningful life on top of that? So many seem attracted to the shallow idiots who end up treating them like crap, are disloyal, and don't care for them. I see it among many of my male peers, who talk down to women in a very disgusting way...go out an screw around after they had their first kid...not even try and make anything better of themselves in life. I've got two college diplomas and am finishing a university degree, because I know these are helping me build a solid foundation for my future. So many other guys are content to just live some life in total despair, without any push for *something* better...and their g/f's/wives don't care. (This is not mean't to be cruel..please. Being a good person is what IS important. But I am sorry..I am very proud of my accomplishments.)
OK...I know..I don't mean to sound like an elitist snob...but I think I have a right to air my concerns with narrow-mindedness and the fact that so many people just waste their life away. Heck, us folks on here spend tons of money and years working on medication (which often has HORRID effects..but we keep trying) to make us 'better' in many ways...we don't give up. I think it's admirable, and we should all be very, very proud of ourselves.
So..I don't know if there is one thing I am trying to address. Mental Illness seems to offer an insight unparalleled from most other experience, and don't let ANYBODY think you are a tiny drop less than you REALLY are.
Comments..how to use this in my 'love life'...in our lives!? Please and thank you..:-)
Thanks..
Jay.
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