Posted by jay on October 26, 2002, at 15:29:21
In reply to Re: Women/Womin and My Problems..boohooo!! everyone!, posted by Greg A. on October 26, 2002, at 7:40:06
Hey Greg:Thanks very much for the insightful and thoughtful reply. I think I can relate to what you are getting at, as I had dated this one gal who was just 'separated', from a guy who was very abusive, and she even told me, she was totally turned off by myself being a 'nice' guy. Geezz..there is a real booster, eh?..hehee.
But, like you, I always 'refused' to turn into some macho idiot just to 'score'. Cheap and meaningless 'relationships', usually 'casual encounters', are easy to come by, and it's weird, but I find many women are just as bad as men about this. That is, they prefer a quick 'fling' rather than a committed, long-term relationship. Again, it seems many women don't want to get 'emotionally' close, and prefer the disposability of a one-night fling.
So, I can really see your last point about '..hovering around', because it seems like some woman are so blind to ques, and often refuse to take the first-step. Then, like in my case, sometimes they equate you asking them out with a marriage proposal. Geezzz..
Anyhow..thanks again for your wise and insightful words!
Jay
> Jay - I am married with 2 almost grown (so they think)daughters, have recently turned 50 much to my alarm, and possess many of the same admirable qualities you ascribe to yourself. Including mental illness, for which I continually search for ways to make myself better. At one program I went through, I met this lady, Kelly, who was dealing with depression in her life. It seems the love of her life, her husband of many years who we gradually learned, drank, beat her, chased other women, and generally fit the mold of the man we try never to be, was planning to leave her because she was mentally ill. Resisting the urge to shout 'Good riddance!!' the people in the group, both male and female told Kelly that she was a good person and deserving of so much more in a relationship. I kept in contact with Kelly and she finally split with Mr. Wonderful. I asked her, about a year later, how she had ever become involved with such a jerk in the first place. She asked where all the nice sensitive guys like me were, when she was younger. Probably hovering around her trying to get her attention.
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