Posted by Tabßitha on October 26, 2002, at 15:49:27
In reply to Women/Womin and My Problems..boohooo!! everyone!, posted by jay on October 26, 2002, at 6:50:16
Aw geez, Jay. I think you misinterpreted her signals. Just reading the 1st part about how she was confiding in you, I felt sure she was not interested romantically. She was treating you as a friend from the get-go. If a woman is interested romantically, there's going to be more nervous flirtation than easy conversation, and she's sure not going to be complaining about how lonely she is. That's buddy behavior.
I hate seeing guys fall into that trap. It's just a fact of life that women will often be interested in men just as friends, and if you want romance, you've got to learn to distinguish that from romantic interest. The worst part is when guys hang around doing "just friends" hoping she'll change her mind. At least you wised up when she put her cards on the table.
Incidentally, I think the "just friends" trap for men is the equivalent of the "just lovers" trap for women, when women fail to distinguish sexual interest from romantic interest on the man's part.
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