Posted by Ted on September 2, 2002, at 11:44:20
In reply to Re: Going hypo?, posted by ~~tabitha~~ on September 2, 2002, at 2:12:01
Hi Tabby,
> Whoa, it was getting really warm in here, until...
It's still kinda warm....
> > Fun too until it gets too complicated (unfortunately it only takes about 1 or 2 days with a woman before romance gets "too complicated").
> After 1 or 2 days of, um, dalliance, I'd be completely hooked and you'd be out of there.
Not necessarily. As long as you are neither aloof nor smothering nor possessive, it'll be fine.
>I really believe sex makes women fall in love, and for men, it just, well, doesn't. It's just kind of like a good meal for them, it fills them up and they move on to the next activity.
Sometimes, for some men. I don't think I was like that before I got married. As Ann Landers used to say, "Women give sex in exchange for love; men give love in exchange for sex." I think it's too general, but true in many cases.
>I've got myself convinced, though, that most guys pursue the gorgeous babes who show little interest, and ignore the less gorgeous women who actually want them.
My wife isn't the prettiest of my former girlfriends, not by a long shot. But she is smart and she likes me. That's what counts.
It goes both ways. That's why there are so many really nice single guys. I have two single female coworkers who have only had "bad boy" boyfriends and my secretary's husband is a "bad boy". None were interested in nice guys. Then they all complain about how mean and insensitive their "bad boys" are, how much trouble they are always in, how little money they make, how little they can be trusted, how their parents hate them, etc. My secretary is convinced now that she should have married a boring engineer. :-)
>(Not that I'm not gorgeous, of course.)
You're as gorgeous as you feel. Plus, some sexy lingerie, nail polish, lipstick, and a slinky dress go a long way. :-)
> > >When I was an AOL newbie
> > Oxymoron. One needn't be redundant.
> Hey be nice. I'm still on AOL.Sorry. You need not stay with AOL. If you use dialup, switch to Juno and save a bundle; otherwise switch to DSL or digital cable (what I use), and you don't need anything.
>If you ask nicely I might tell you my screen name.
I don't use AOL, so it wouldn't be of use. Perhaps an email address.... :-) Or a street address... :-) Or a phone number.... :-) Whoa, I better slow down here.
Or, just look in the recent archives and get my email address.
>>anonymous quickies.> My married guy friend told me this same thing. I guess I need to hear it from a woman to believe it.
So you don't believe anything a man says? So if your boyfriend whispers naughty, sexy compliments in your ear, you would look at him and say, "LIAR!"
Geez. Gimme a break. :-)
>Then when the guy doesn't call...
Phones work both ways, dear. Women can call men anytime, and women can ask men out on dates and ACTUALLY PAY FOR *THEM*! Amazing but true! And men actually *like* that! And they don't all see it as an invitation for sex!! Even more amazing!
That's why *a lot* of shy but nice, single men die batchelors. It's *really* tough to ask women out, especially the first time. And to keep trying in the face of rejection... Uggh. Not fun, not fun at all. Now you understand Jay.
Sorry. When my wife and I got married and combined our savings, etc., she said something like, "WOW! Why do I have *so much* more money than you?" My reply, "When was the last time you paid for a date? When was the last time you offered to drive, thus paying for gasoline, parking, etc.? I had to replace my bomb (junk auto) because you wouldn't ride in it on dates, but you still drive your bomb." You get the idea.
> You probably don't want to hear this, but... this make me think. It's the painful entanglements that I try to sexualize, not like here where I"m actually having fun and feeling pretty much free to be myself.
Why wouldn't I like this? You are feeling yourself, having fun, not getting entangled, etc. It's true for me too. And we can't be too sexual 400 miles apart.
>Isn't that sad?
No...
>I need to get re-wired so I can actually get some real gratification, you know, being singularly cherished and accepted and loved and all that, plus sex.
There are lots of single nice guys. Find one and have fun.
> Sorry dear. The meds and all. Actually I"ve always been this way. Hypomania aside, I only feel a real physical desire about 2 days in my monthly cycle. Are you starting to get why I"m single?
Well, my wife is wild for only about 4-5 days out of 28. That's natural. It's those who can't get enough for 29 out of those 28 days that are a little suspicious. :-)
You don't need "real physical desire". You only need to accept that your mate is "hungrier" and to relax. Also, _tell_ him what you like and want -- he'll find it sexy and you'll have a better time.
>...you big hunk of married 40 yr old mood-cyclin' silicon valley fruit-lovin' techie geek, er,
Careful there, slow down. :-)
>I mean high-powered software executive.
Nah. Ain't me. I hate management. BTDT.
Keep it coming, Tabby. It makes Niki & Roo get all excited. :-)
Ted
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