Posted by jay on August 30, 2002, at 13:50:30
In reply to Re: A little hint for Jay..., posted by Dinah on August 30, 2002, at 9:11:46
> If you don't mind, Jay.
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> I think there are lots of women out there who would appreciate a man who is sensitive and kind and is ready to settle down.
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> But all women want to be appreciated for who they are. It's a powerful aphrodesiac. So if you in any way appear that you're looking for "a woman", they might not be all that flattered.
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> But if you just place yourself in positions to naturally meet women, get to know some, and then ask one out because you are so genuinely impressed with her, you'll probably impress the woman a lot more.
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> Of course, that sage advice didn't apply to my husband and me. I hunted him down with the determination of a wolf who had picked her deer. He was the man for me. Okay, I'm exaggerating here. We were in high school, and I certainly didn't stalk him or anything. Just let him know that I really liked him for his many stellar qualities and that I wanted to be with him. But it worked in that direction. He was flattered that I wanted him for who he was.
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> Of course, I have limited dating experience, as you can tell. And my advice might be worth absolutely nothing in the real world. :)Well...I know what you are saying Dinah. The whole "I am interested but I am going to pretend I am not interested" thing...and to a small point, I use this. But, it seems too much of a game, something that some people do for their own egos sake. You know...I'll be forward here...I've had a fair (well no...it *wasn't* fair!!!..but..) amount of loss in my life, the death of a child and a girlfriend (Oh geezz..I did it now!!...I *have* opened up the baggage department!). So, time is very, very precious to me.
And..I don't mean I am looking for some "instant" relationship, but it seems people talk about them and treat them with such a care-a-less attitude.
It's not like going grocery shopping.."well..I think I'll get one of these today..". It just seems many treat it like that, and maybe that's why there are so many screwed up relationships.OK..I've ranted enough. I know your intentions are good, but I've never been one to play by the rules. Maybe I examine things too deeply...but...that's just me.
Thanx,
Jay
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