Posted by IsoM on August 30, 2002, at 18:57:12
In reply to Re: Finding Someone... » IsoM, posted by jay on August 30, 2002, at 14:39:21
Jay, you may have your standards too high for most women you meet. Now before you get upset, I think it's a good thing to have high standards. But my cynicism is going to show but really, the majority of people, while basically being reasonably good types, are not that deep. Life revolves around the mundane for most. Few seem to talk about much more than their jobs, what they saw on TV or movies, & very average boring things. Few have any real passion for life or 'joie de vie'.
Maybe your problem isn't who you are but who's out there. Don't you feel that the really good ones are generally already taken? That & the common herd seems already matched up, leaving those older few who have trouble finding someone with similar interests & values.
As we grow older too, our values will often crystallize & that narrows our choices down. I can find a few men with interests somewhat (only) similar to me, but none with similar interests AND similar values. We're older, we're wiser & it becomes harder & harder to find someone you can connect with.
Why do you think I've chosen to remain single? I don't want to get locked in some meaningless relationship that just rots away. I think I'd need to engineer some guy to find what I'd want. Yes, my standards are very high, but damn it! I do have a lot to offer & would never again settle for less. So I settle for nothing. I'm happier this way.
Oh well, my little rant. Just telling you it ain't easy & never will be.
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