Posted by jay on August 30, 2002, at 14:39:21
In reply to Finding Someone... » jay, posted by IsoM on August 30, 2002, at 13:34:21
> Just my view, if you're interested, Jay.
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> I think you nned to be satisfied with your own company, completely content & complete by yourself first & then you'll appear more attractive to someone. I don't mean you have to be happy all the time - but you need to think of yourself as your best friend.
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> Do you want to find someone special, not just any woman that's out there? If you want someone suited to you, you need to go to places where you'll find such a person. For example, you say you don't like sports & cars lots - good. Then you wouldn't expect to find someone suited to you at a car show. What do you like? What sort of things do you enjoy? Go to those places to find someone similar.
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> But unless you're truly content with yourself, you will project a subtle air of discontent & incompleteness that a woman with intuition will sense & it'll make her avoid you.
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>Yes, I know what you are saying.(Did it..bought the t-shirt..etc. :-) Sorry..I know you are just trying to help. I've been down this road many times..I am 32. I've lost (in the "truest" sense), and I don't want to make that as an excuse...but it will always be a part of me. (See my above post to Dinah.) Maybe that is where my neurosis comes in. My therapist once told me I likely feel like I am a failure because I was unable to "protect my loved ones." (As a father/parent feel they should.)
So, I am somewhat satisfied with myself as a person. (No one is ever *perfectly* so of course.) I spent many YEARS by myself...only wanting myself as company. Hell, it seems like eternity. Now, as I re-build my life, my time has come that I am getting back that yearning for 'another'...a counterpart....soulmate..etc.
Beyond that...I really don't know what else to say.
Thanx,
Jay
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