Posted by Kar on May 28, 2002, at 16:49:10
In reply to Dumped and Depressed, posted by KB on May 28, 2002, at 5:55:43
KB- when I found out (from the other woman, mind you) that my boyfriend of 5 years had been cheating for the past year and a half, one of the things I discovered is how many people this has happened to! It seemed that everyone I told had their own "story"...Did you just find out about the other woman or had you already known? And did he know you knew? Whatever the answers are, what everone has said is so true. I continued to talk to this guy even after I found out; hell, I saw him many times. And it took me a long time to get him out of my system. It's hard to hear what everyone is telling you now, which is "Stay away from him!" but it's the best advice. it's good that you are mad and not all ready to forgive because that's healthy...
I guess what I learned was that it really does take time- no matter what an a** someone is to you, you don't stop loving them right away. You're better than he is (this is the kind of thing that I heard after it happened to me and I knew I should believe it but didn't feel it). And you most assuredly will find someone who values you!
Don't be hurt because of what he's doing for the other woman...because it's gonna happen to her too!
All the best...it does get better,
Kar
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