Posted by wendy b. on May 28, 2002, at 8:31:59
In reply to Dumped and Depressed, posted by KB on May 28, 2002, at 5:55:43
KB:
At least he bought you sushi! (Kidding...)
I think Phil has a lot of wisdom to share, based as he says, on experience. He is right about everything. If the guy is messing around on you, and you permit that, then he has the upper hand, and you can't let that go on into the future as a couple that has supposedly broken up. You are going to need a lot of strength to let him go, because he WILL call you to f___ around while he's with the new woman. I guarantee it. And what are you going to say? When it happened to me, I slept with my sort-of-ex because I told myself I still loved him, and I thought his wanting sex meant he still loved me, too. I was very wrong. In fact, the reverse was true, he never loved me. If he had, he wouldn't have treated me that way... Same would hold true for your guy.
It will take a while for the sting and the hurt to go away, and I'm sorry for you for that. Please write to us again, as often as you want. If you need my e-mail, I can send it...
Take care of yourself,
Wendy
> Last night, over sushi, my boyfriend of 9 months dumped me. He says he met someone new and even though he loves me he doesn't think marrying me would work out - wants someone more "conventional", he says. I'm especially hurt because he's doing for this new woman something he would never do for me - be monogamous - he was seeing another woman for most of our relationship.
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> I know he's a selfish jerk, but I"m still really upset -last night I cried for hours and then got drunk (I don't drink). If I had had anything worth overdosing on I probably would have.
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