Posted by twilight on May 6, 2009, at 23:21:46
In reply to Re: Apologies, posted by Dinah on May 6, 2009, at 11:46:41
Dinah, you say what you mean, so well:
>>> I admit I tell people all the time what I need to hear. My therapist will often counter with what he feels he is able to say. The resulting negotiation often leads to a compromise we can both live with. I hope he would do the same with me. It's hard to know what other people need to hear. It would do me no good to wait for him to say something that he might well feel, but that it might not occur to him to express.
>>> But if someone does know what I need to hear, and says it with truth and genuineness, or maybe even especially if we negotiate on wording that one can say with all truth and the other can accept with good feeling, it is just as good. Really. The key is the level of genuineness. <<****
This was beautiful to read! Sorry to jump in, but I just had to comment on this.
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