Posted by Annierose on May 6, 2009, at 19:56:04
In reply to Apparently my T's plan is..., posted by TherapyGirl on May 5, 2009, at 18:53:04
I think there are different levels of conversation going on in your session. You want her to say "I made a mistake, I'm not leaving." Anything short of that makes you angry that she is not helping. And that puts her in a lose-lose situation.
Unfortunately, therapist retire, move or close their practice for personal reasons. And I can only imagine how painful that process is for the therapist and especially all the clients - YOU! It really does s*ck especially since you have worked together for years.
I think your therapist is trying to get you to face the seperation head-on. She is not treading lightly since time is approaching. She isn't changing her mind.
I'm not being unsympathetic - I would be upset too - but I think you need to take an active role in this process. For me, that would mean checking out other therapists while I still have "mine" to sort them out with. I know my t wouldn't say "he's good" "she's not so good" --- but I think by talking about my choices with my t after I 'interviewed them' - I would feel that she helped me move on to the next.
When my brother died suddenly a few years ago, I knew that my therapist was about the same age (52ish). So I asked her to do something for me. I wanted her to do a "professional will" of sorts - even if it only said - "I am leaving the following therapist recommendations for Annierose: x, y and z." Now I don't know if she followed through, but I know she listened to my request.
Anger gets me stuck in therapy so maybe this is pure projection. I recall Ladybugs sortof similar situation a few months ago. When she was able to express her loving feelings after working through her anger, the seperation was more bitter-sweet than pure hell.
And your t is right - babble is open 24/7
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