Posted by Dinah on May 5, 2009, at 19:16:49
In reply to Apparently my T's plan is..., posted by TherapyGirl on May 5, 2009, at 18:53:04
For you to leave her? What on earth was the context for that?
Hmmm.....
I *have* said to my therapist that the instant he tells me that he will be leaving me, that he already has left me and ceases to be my therapist immediately. So maybe I sorta understand that. She's trying to give you the power to leave her so that you'll be doing the abandoning instead of her?
Well, it doesn't work if she suggests it. Sheesh.
I've talked to my therapist about your therapist retiring, and moving across state, and being in touch with you but not all that much. He asked me (with far too much genuine, if gentle, interest) what *would* be the right way to go about retirement in those circumstances. I told him there was no right way. He gave me that smile that he gives me when he's gotten me to say something that he could never say.
There is no *right* way for her to do this.
But maybe she could be a bit more active in preparing a nest for you once she goes? Giving you the names of people who won't come close to filling her shoes. Reminding you of things you've done in the past that have made feeling alone a bit better. Supporting your efforts to bring a canine friend into your life.
And apologizing a heck of a lot for hurting you, and telling you how much it hurts her to hurt you, and how much she'll miss having you in her life. And really really acknowledging the pain it causes to have someone you rely on, someone who encouraged you to rely on her, leave you.
poster:Dinah
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