Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2009, at 9:42:28
In reply to Re: neivity and intelligence, posted by am3ma on April 29, 2009, at 18:26:10
I think it's good that you asked for and got a reply to the more general statement of your not being right for the program. Organizations frequently have a company culture, with unspoken expectations and norms. The organization you were with may have had the group expectation that new people or nonprofessionals should defer to the professionals in meetings. I don't really know the situation, so I can't comment on the specifics with any real knowledge. That's just one possible alternative. Other groups may have other group norms. How did other people in the position you had in that organization interact with the professionals?
You say this is an issue that comes up often in your life? It might be the right time to find a therapist who can observe things directly, and try to assess what might be going on that is negatively affecting your life.
It's really hard to try to figure those things out for ourselves, no matter how hard we try. Because we lack the necessary objectivity to truly look at ourselves as others see us.
Which, as my therapist just told *me*, doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with me. But, he said, I was the only person I had any ability to change, so if I wanted the outcome to change, the change had to come from me.
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