Posted by seldomseen on February 20, 2009, at 7:23:08
In reply to Worse than ever, posted by TherapyGirl on February 20, 2009, at 6:40:39
I would like you to consider that perhaps what happened did not rest solely on your actions.
I suspect your friend may have some things going on that brought her to her decision independently of what may be a "slip-up" on your part. Her decision may, in fact, have very little to do with you or your behaviour.
I think when we are at our most depressed and vulnerable our brains seek out some way to control what is happening around us. A common way to do this is simply say, well, I must have caused it. I also think it is a remnant of the way we must have coped when we were children.
I think the key is as adults to try to sort out what responsibility belongs to us and what belongs to others.
Who knows, maybe your friend will sort out her issues and seek to repair the rupture. All you can do is work on your own.
Peace
Seldom.
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