Posted by antigua3 on August 16, 2008, at 13:02:48
In reply to Re: I am so confused and scared., posted by Amanda29 on August 16, 2008, at 12:11:56
If transference is driving you crazy, maybe you should face it openly again with him, and again and again until you are able to get this under control. How many times have we (or at least for me) heard that you can't ignore the elephant in the room.
IMO, you need for him to help you deal with the boundaries, not on what they are, but how you can deal with fitting into those boundaries. What can he help teach you/tell you on how to deal with the boundaries, to respect them so you can move forward.
But at the moment, the transference is what is driving your therapy, and it needs to be dealt with on both sides. Is he experienced in dealing with this type of situation? Or does he bail when it gets too much. You need to talk to him about this and together find ways for you to stick to the boundaries, and explore what is it that makes this so very, very hard and agonizing for you.
Have him help you; that's his job. He just can't set the boundaries without helping you find ways to cope with them, given your past history. Just my opinion.
I know how much pain this transference causes, but you want to find out why you react this way so you can get a handle on it.
best of luck,
antigua
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