Posted by Daisym on March 31, 2008, at 0:57:52
In reply to Re: Homework, posted by frida on March 30, 2008, at 14:29:10
Frida,
Your post was very moving. Thank you for sharing so much. What happened with your mom is one of my fears - that she will see it as something "you and your father did together" instead of something awful that was forced. We've worked really hard on this in therapy - all these feelings of shame and responsibility. I think I'm starting to feel less at fault and more in need of that comfort that you wrote about. I suspect that is why a lot of this is up right now.I wish I knew the magic words to write so that your mom could see how devastating this was and is for you. But she obviously has her own set of problems. I'm glad to hear you are talking more in therapy these days. Your therapist has been very steady in her support of you. Healing takes a long time and there seems to be so many layers. I bet the younger parts of you that tried to tell are incredibly sad. But you did the right thing and talking about it now is also the right thing.
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