Posted by DAisym on March 31, 2008, at 20:06:50
In reply to Re: Homework » Daisym, posted by rskontos on March 31, 2008, at 15:26:33
So many of us have such sad stories. I'm touched that you were willing to share yours with me. It sounds like a horrible way to grow up.
I think you have lots of reasons to be angry at your mom and dad. They didn't just not protect you - they were part of the harm. I am struggling with the angry feelings, I don't think she deserves them - she never hurt me. My therapist said today that some of it really does belong to her and I'm over-the-top anxious about it because I'm convinced that anger hurts people. So it is hard for me to feel angry with her. It remains attached to a younger part so that the rational me can breathe.
I wish it felt safe to talk to my sister about some of this. She isn't capable of keeping a confidence and I think she would use it for her own drama. It must be hard to be estranged from your sister when in a perfect world you would be getting and giving support to one-another.
Do you talk to your dad about any of this now? I still can't imagine even the beginnings of talking with mine. The mom thing is hard enough.
Something interesting we talked about today - Some people get their memories, or fragments of memories and then want to talk to family members. Other people talk to family members about the general idea or feelings they have...and their memories come back. Sometimes telling unlocks the door. Sometimes those doors have to stay locked to protect against a complete break down. I think we need to respect that and go slow.
Thanks for sharing. I hope it wasn't too painful.
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