Posted by seldomseen on March 4, 2008, at 10:14:19
In reply to I'm hurting so much right now, posted by Racer on March 3, 2008, at 18:26:09
Racer,
I am so sorry for all of this. I hope that you are feeling better today and that some of the acute trauma is resolving.I have no idea what is going on with your husband. Do you think everything is okay "down there" with him. A lot of men don't want to talk about it. Just a thought.
Also, how do you think your husband would react if you expressed these fears to him? Are you in a place in your marriage where you would feel safe doing that?
I also wonder if some of this anxiety is also being triggered by the notion that you feel as though you may never be loved again, both literally and figuratively. You will and you are loved right now.
I'm not married, never have been, so I'm not going to hand out marital advice. Besides, (and I'm sure you don't need me to tell you this) only you know the dynamics of your relationship with your husband.
One thing I would suggest would be massage therapy if you feel as though you could tolerate it. It helped me to get over my "touch" phobia and the benefits of it are pretty long lasting.
Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help ease your mind, or your soul.
Take care and peace
Seldom
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