Posted by MissK on January 13, 2008, at 12:12:31
This is kind of a rant but a reality check at the same time.
I admit, I don't get it. I don't get the agonizing over T relationships that I sometimes read about here.
I would be curious: has anyone here ever had dinner and met the family of their Ts at their house, or vice versa has anyone's T been to your house for dinner and met your family?
To me, the point of therapy is to no longer need therapy and preferably sooner rather than later, which kind of negates the idea of nurturing and tending to a relationship in the wider sense. Sure, we share very intimate things with the T, but at the end of session you LEAVE and they LEAVE with the exchange of money for the service provided and each attend to their respective lives outside of that office.
I like my T. She has helped me alot but I don't think about or agonize over our relationship because it is a pretty defined one. I go there with my psychological troubles, she provides me psychological therapy whose aim it is to get me back to a state of coping independently in life and to no longer need therapy and by virtue the 'therapist' him/herself.
I kind of see it as having a favourite school teacher; for the time you were with them they enriched your life and helped - they will always be special for what they did but you don't stay stuck in that grade, you moved on with the memory and specialness of what was learned and shared.
I know some will need or may want lifelong therapy, but even then I think it is important to make distinction of what that person is in your life. I hear alooot of heartache here of T relationships, almost like relationships with a mother, father, sibling, lover, etc. And I just don't get how or why someone would allow a T relationship to get to that point or why a T would let it either. What purpose can that serve.
It really does bother me to see people in so much turmoil in what should be a healthy exchange - it doesn't sound all that healthy to me sometimes when I read of the heartache that goes on.
Rant, reality check over.
poster:MissK
thread:806142
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