Posted by muffled on January 13, 2008, at 17:31:35
In reply to Agonizing over T Relationships *trigger + rant*, posted by MissK on January 13, 2008, at 12:12:31
:-) ROFL!!!!
I DO love a straightforward post!!!
I do see where it must be utterly inexplicable to most, this T relationship business. Thats whats so good bout babble, there's others here that DO understand.
I still struggle w/it.
I dunno how to explain, but I try from my POV.
I go to T, cuz things not going too well again. T is nice. I spend 1 1/2 yrs developing enuf trust to say much of ANYthing about myself to her. I finally start to. I have never EVER done this B4, I am very self contained IRL. So now this T knows bad stuff bout me. That steps up the relationship a notch, cuz NOW if she rejectes me, well then for SURE is cuz I bad.
I 'tested' my T ALOT B4 I came to trust. I never leaned on noone B4. So to do this was hard.
So this explains some why relationship is SO intense.
BOTH my T and I worked very hard to develop trust.
I guess what it comes down to is if your trust has been betrayed at a very young age it changes how you grow up and view people.
Guess the other guys said it well.
My T says she is setting an example of a relationship that it is safe to trust. Along with teaching me a whole lot of other stuff.
Guess one other thing, is this stuff is close to our core of being. So yeah, its intense.
LOL!!! I love good questions!
M
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