Posted by pfinstegg on May 6, 2007, at 18:40:23
In reply to Re: The new T » pfinstegg, posted by annierose on May 6, 2007, at 8:16:33
Thanks for your lovely message. I do hope any rupture you have had with your T. will be brief. I think the reason the Ts sometimes want you to sit up, or you feel the need to yourself, is because you can have more "implicit relational knowing"- i.e., the non verbal kind, involving gaze, voice tones, knowledge of the other person's body language. Yesterday, my husband and i went to hear Daniel Stern, and he talked about the importance of that for an entire day- interspersed with case presentations, etc. He really emphasized a model of therapy which stressed the unknowable- just letting the right things grow in the right hemisphere- and de-emphasizing the importance of interpretations and left hemisphere conscious knowing. Very interesting, and it felt right, somehow.
Right now, my new T and I are working on the trauma of the old T. We both feel it's not the right time for the couch, or daily sessions. He says, "perhaps later"
I'm not sure, but I think he knows the old T very well. They are about the same age, and have both been training and supervising analysts. Now my new T is president of the whole thing. They are at least life-long colleagues, and may even be close friends. But my new T is very encouraging in allowing me to tell everything that I am feeling about my last experience, so I feel I can count on his discretion and professionalism. I'm only at the very beginning with him, and so am very cautious. When I say that it is harder for me to be as honest and open this time around, he says it's entirely natural, and just encourages me to talk about "how I don't want to talk".
Thank you, Annie. Do you want to say more about the rupture?
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